
Toward a Psychology of Being
Abraham Maslow sits in the great-grandfather slot in my spiritual family tree and is kinda the great-grandfather of the modern Positive Psychology movement. We profiled the 19 characteristics of his self-actualizing individual in our Note on Motivation & Personality in Volume I and in this Note we take a look at the essence of creativity and the fact that we all have capacities that’re clamoring to be used!
Big Ideas
- Healthy PeopleAnd satisfying needs.
- A PsychopathologyOf the average.
- RecordsIn our unconscious.
- An End & A Bridge= Self-actualization.
- The Creative SpiritNot just “art.”
- Creativity = EpiphenomenaOf virtue.
- Turning Our Brains OffAnd Trusting ourselves.
- Acorns & TigersAnd us.
- Don’t StressAbout your stress.
- Capactities ClamoringTo be used.
“The more we learn about man’s natural tendencies, the easier it will be to tell him how to be good, how to be happy, how to be fruitful, how to respect himself, how to love, how to fulfill his highest potentialities…
Every age but ours has had its model, its ideal. All of these have been given up by culture; the saint, the hero, the gentleman, the knight, the mystic. About all we have left is the well-adjusted man without problems, a very pale and doubtful substitute. Perhaps we shall soon be able to use as our guide and model the fully growing and self-fulfilling human being, the one in whom all his potentialities are coming to full development, the one whose inner nature expresses itself freely, rather than being warped, suppressed or denied.”
~ Abraham Maslow from Toward a Psychology of Being
Abraham Maslow is one of my favorite teachers. A leading 20th century psychologist, his vision for and belief in the power of scientific research into what makes extraordinary people extraordinary helped catalyze what is now known as the Positive Psychology movement.
In our Note on Motivation and Personality, we check out the 19 characteristics of what he calls the “self-actualizing individual.” (HIGHLY recommend you check out that Note. It’s one of my favorites.)
In Toward a Psychology of Being, Maslow explores a range of ideas. Although pretty intellectual/heady at times, I’ve pulled out some of my favorite practical Big Ideas and I hope you love it!
Self-actualizing people, those who have come to a high level of maturation, health and self-fulfillment, have so much to teach us that sometimes they seem almost like a different breed of human beings.
Healthy People
“So far as motivational status is concerned, healthy people have sufficiently gratified their basic needs for safety, belongingness, love, respect and self-esteem so that they are motivated primarily by trends to self-actualization (defined as ongoing actualization of potentials, capacities and talents, as fulfillment of mission [or call, fate, destiny, or vocation], as a fuller knowledge of, and acceptance of, the person’s own intrinsic nature, as an unceasing trend toward unity, integration or synergy within the person).”
That’s Maslow’s view of the self-actualizer/a healthy person in a nut shell!
As we discussed in the Note on Motivation and Personality, Maslow created the “Hierarchy of Needs” and the basic idea is that, as we move thru the more basic needs for safety, belongingness, love, respect and self-esteem, we open more and more fully into the pull to self-actualize. Good stuff.
A Psychopathology of the average
“Certainly it seems more and more clear that what we call “normal” in psychology is really a psychopathology of the average, so undramatic and so widely spread that we don’t even notice it ordinarily.”
Hah. Well, that’s one way to look at “normal,” eh?!?
“A psychopathology of the average.” :)
Maslow delivers that blow in the context of his desire to see more and more scientific research put into what’s POSSIBLE rather than what is.
And, it reminds me of Jiddu Krishnamurti’s wisdom that “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”
Records in our unconscious
“The serious thing for each person to recognize vividly and poignantly, each for himself, is that every falling away from species-virtue, every crime against one’s own nature, every evil act, every one without exception records itself in our unconscious and makes us despise ourselves. Karen Horney had a good word to describe this unconscious perceiving and remembering; she said it “registers.” If we do something we are ashamed of, it “registers” to our discredit, and if we do something honest or fine or good, it “registers” to our credit. The net results ultimately are either one or the other—either we respect and accept ourselves or we despise ourselves and feel contemptible, worthless, and unlovable.”
That’s pretty strong, eh?
Maslow doesn’t mess around in these matters.
In the Note on Motivation and Personality, he has some other equally strong words: “If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you’ll be unhappy for the rest of your life.”(Yowsers! :)
Reminds me of the idea of karmic “imprints” Geshe Michael Roache talks about in his great book The Diamond Cutter (see Notes).
Geshe Roache tells us: “And this, of all the points in this book, is the single most important one for business and personal success: Even a relatively minor action, if undertaken with a conscious awareness of how imprints make us see an otherwise ‘neutral’ or ‘empty’ world as we do, will lead to tremendous results. To illustrate this truth, the Buddha is telling his disciple Subhuti that it would be better just to lay hands on The Diamond Cutter, and have some inkling of its contents, than give another person an entire planet, or even a billion entire planets, covered with precious jewels. This is because a person who even comes close to understanding how imprints make us see our world as we do can go about creating, consciously, a perfect life and perfect world.”
Imprints. The idea is that every single thought and action we have creates a little “imprint” in our consciousness—influencing how we perceive the world and therefore the thoughts and actions we’re likely to take in the future. In effect, each of these little imprints directly and significantly affect the course of our lives. So, we want to take them seriously and pay attention!
For the record, this *does not* mean that we should beat ourselves up and live with shame and unnecessary guilt. In fact, Roache talks about the fact that “There’s no word in Tibetan for ‘guilty.’ The closest thing is ‘intelligent regret that decides to do things differently.’”
It’s all about noticing what’s working and what’s not, being honest with ourselves and then choosing to take the most constructive action going forward.
Ultimately, it’s all living our ideals. Being in integrity.
Are you?
Self-Actualization as an end and a Bridge
“I wish to underscore one main paradox I have dealt with above which we must face even if we don’t understand it. The goal of identity (self-actualization, autonomy, individuation, Horney’s real self, authenticity, etc.) seems to be simultaneously an end-goal in itself, and also a transitional goal, a rite of passage, a step along the path to the transcendence of identity. This is like saying its function is to erase itself. Put the other way about, if our goal is the Eastern one of ego-transcendence and obliteration, of leaving behind self-consciousness and self-observation, of fusion with the world and identification with it… then it looks as if the best path to this goal for most people is via achieving identity, a strong real self, and via basic-need-gratitification rather than via asceticism.”
Amen.
We talk about the relationship between ego and self-development and Eastern/New Agey vs. Western pscyhoanalytic perspectives in the Notes on Nathaniel Branden’s The Art of Living Consciously and Joseph Campbell’s Pathways to Bliss and Jonathan Haidt’s The Happiness Hypothesis (and I imagine we’ll continue to explore it as we do more Notes :).
If you’re interested in deepening your understanding of the role a healthy ego plays in our evolution I think you’ll really dig those Notes. For now, know that if we want to get to a point where we can *transcend* our ego/separate self, first we must have a clear sense of who we are.
In short, we can’t transcend something we haven’t fully embodied! How can you “let go” of something you don’t have hold of? So, here’s to self-actualizing so we can continue on the path of transcending (and *including*) our individuated selves.
P.S. Remember: If you can’t get yourself to do the dishes (or eat well, exercise, quit yelling at people, meditate consistently, whatever), the rest of this stuff isn’t very relevant. So, go do your dishes. :)
The Creative Spirit
“I had unconsciously confined creativeness to certain conventional areas only of human endeavor, unconsciously assuming that any painter, any poet, any composer was leading a creative life. Theorists, artists, scientists, inventors, writers could be creative. Nobody else could be. Unconsciously I had assumed that creativeness was the prerogative solely of certain professionals.
But these expectations were broken up by various of my subjects. For instance, one woman, uneducated, poor, a full-time housewife and mother, did none of these conventionally creative things and yet was a marvellous cook, mother, wife and homemaker. With little money, her home was somehow always beautiful. She was a perfect hostess. Her meals were banquets. Her taste in linens, silver, glass, crockery and furniture was impeccable. She was in all these areas original, novel, ingenious, unexpected, inventive. I just had to call her creative. I learned from her and others like her that a first-rate soup is more creative than a second-rate painting, and that, generally, cooking or parenthood or making a home could be creative while poetry need not be; it could be uncreative.
… From another man I learned that constructing a business organization could be a creative activity. From a young athlete, I learned that a perfect tackle could be as esthetic a product as a sonnet and could be approached with the same creative spirit.”
I love this passage.
It’s amazing how often people say that, just because they aren’t a musician or a painter or some other “creative” type, that they aren’t inherently creative—which is usually followed by a statement along the lines of the idea that, if they *are* going to be more creative, they need to start painting or playing music or whatever.
But, that misses the point of true creativity. In reality, EVERY moment gives us an opportunity to live with a creative spirit—as we remember that, ultimately, our LIVES are our greatest work of art and each moment gives us another chance to most fully embody our highest ideals and rock it.
And, it reminds me of John Gardner’s wisdom: “The society which scorns excellence in plumbing because plumbing is a humble activity, and tolerates shoddiness in philosophy because philosophy is an exalted activity, will have neither good plumbing nor good philosophy. Neither its pipes nor its theories will hold water.”
If you’re wondering how you can get your creativity on, how about some Maslow mojo on that? (And, here’s a hint: It all starts with virtue.)
Creativity: An Epiphenomena
“To summarize, SA [self-actualizing] creativeness stresses first the personality rather than its achievements, considering these achievements to be epiphenomena emitted by the personality and therefore secondary to it. It stresses the characterological qualities like boldness, courage, freedom, spontaneity, perspicuity, integration, self-acceptance, all of which make possible the kind of generalized SA creativeness, which expresses itself in creative life, or the creative attitude, or the creative person.”
LOVE. THAT.
First, let’s start with a definition of the word epiphenomena. It means: “a secondary effect or by-product that arises from but does not causally influence a process.”
In short, an epiphenomena is simply a by-product of something else. In this case, Maslow’s telling us that creativity is simply a by-product of being a virtuous individual. It’s as if a person living with the character traits of boldness, courage, freedom, integration, and self-acceptance naturally emits creative goodness.
So many teachers echo this sentiment—which is why I’m so committed to inspiring you to rock your virtues!!
Let’s soak in a little more wisdom on the subject of by-products, shall we?
First, Michael Ray from his great book The Highest Goal (see Notes) where he tells us: “Material bounty may well be the by-product of your spiritual bounty, but it won’t be your focus.”
Eric Butterworth tells us this in his classic book Spiritual Economics (see Notes): “The goal should not be to make money or acquire things, but to achieve the consciousness through which the substance will flow forth when and as you need it.”
Turning our brains off & Trusting ourselves
“All my subjects were relatively more spontaneous and expressive than average people. They were more “natural” and less controlled and inhibited in their behavior, which seemed to flow out more easily and freely and with less blocking and self-criticism. This ability to express ideas and impulses without strangulation and without fear of ridicule turned out to be an essential aspect of SA [Self-Actualizing[ creativeness. Rogers has used the excellent phrase, “fully functioning person,” to describe this aspect of health.”
How’s your spontaneity? Are you all up in your head worried about what everyone will think every moment of the day? (Or just much more than you’d like?)
Reminds me of Anthony de Mello’s wisdom from Awareness (see Notes): “Get rid of your fear of failure, your tensions about succeeding, you will be yourself. Relaxed. You wouldn’t be driving with your brakes on. That’s what would happen.”
And John Eliot from his AWESOME book Overachievement (see Notes) where he talks about the importance of entering what he calls a “Trusting Mindset” where we get out of our heads and let it rip. In his words: “Selling is very different from trying to be a salesman. That A you got at Business School in ‘Sales & Marketing’ isn’t what’s going to close the deal. In fact, if all you’re doing is thinking about what you should do, you’re going to look like a self-conscious goof and do anything but close. When you’re in the middle of a deal, you’ve got to turn that part of your brain off and trust yourself.”
So, let’s model Overachievers and Self-Actualizers and turn our brains off and trust ourselves more often! :)
Acorns and Tigers
“Man demonstrates in his own nature a pressure toward fuller and fuller Being, more and more perfect actualization of his humanness in exactly the same naturalistic, scientific sense that an acorn may be said to be “pressing toward” being an oak tree, or that a tiger can be observed to “push toward” being tigerish, or a horse toward being equine.”
Reminds me of this Osho mojo (see Notes on The Book of Understanding):
“Man is not born perfect. He is born incomplete, he is born as a process. He is born on the way, as a pilgrim. That is his agony and his ecstasy, too; agony because he cannot rest, he has to go ahead, he has always to go ahead. He has to seek and search and explore. He has to become, because his being arises only through becoming. Becoming is his being. He can only be if he is on the move. Evolution is intrinsic to man’s nature, evolution is his very soul. And those who take themselves for granted remain unfulfilled. Those who think they are born complete remain unevolved. Then the seed remains the seed. It never becomes a tree and never knows the joys of spring and the sunshine and the rain, and the ecstasy of bursting into millions of flowers. That explosion is the fulfilment, that explosion is what existence is all about—exploding into millions of flowers. When the potential becomes the actual, only then is man fulfilled.”
Beautiful!
And, how about this Rollo May goodness (see Notes on The Courage to Create): “The acorn becomes an oak by means of automatic growth; no commitment is necessary. The kitten similarly becomes a cat on the basis of instinct. Nature and being are identical in creatures like them. But a man or woman becomes fully human only by his or her choices and his or her commitment to them. People attain worth and dignity by the multitude of decisions they make from day by day. These decisions require courage.”
Here’s to courage to create our most authentically awesome selves!
Stressing about our stress
“Self-actualizing does not mean a transcendence of all human problems. Conflict, anxiety, frustration, sadness, hurt, and guilt can all be found in healthy human beings.”
We’ve got this thing about removing ALL negative stuff from our lives. It’s as if we haven’t *really* made it until ALL suffering is banished from our lives (and the world). But, well, that’s just not how it works. As Maslow says here, “Conflict, anxiety, frustration, sadness, hurt, and guilt can all be found in healthy human beings.”
And, Dan Millman tells us this in Everyday Enlightenment (see Notes): “No one feels the same way all the time. Even if you are angry, depressed, crazy, afraid, or grieving, you’ll have moments when you are distracted. There are no enlightened people, no nice, bad, smart, neurotic, or stupid people, either—only people with more (or less) enlightened, nice, bad, smart, neurotic, or stupid moments.”
While David Reynolds tells us this in Constructive Living (see Notes): “There are no neurotics or geniuses or failures or fools. There are only neurotic moments, flashes of brilliance, failed opportunities, and stupid mistakes. But these moments, pleasant or unpleasant, can never fix us into rigid, immutable characters. We cannot help but change. This book is about choosing the direction of your changingness and acting upon your choice.”
So, let’s embrace the fact (yes, it’s a fact) that even the most awesome life is going to have its fair share of challenges. That’s just how it is! Then we can stop stressing about our stress quite so much, eh?
Capacities clamoring to be used
“The muscular person likes to use his muscles, indeed, has to use them in order to self-actualize, and to achieve the subjective feeling of harmonious, uninhibited, satisfying functioning which is so important an aspect of psychological health. People with intelligence must use their intelligence, people with eyes must use their eyes, people with the capacity to love have the impulse to love and the need to love in order to feel healthy. Capacities clamor to be used, and cease their clamor only when they are used sufficiently.”
Maslow said this another way as well: “What one can be, one must be.”