Living Forward
A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want
Living Forward is a powerful little book all about helping us figure out our Life Plan—which is, essentially, the vision for every aspect of our lives and our plan to make it a reality. The book is the result of a collaboration between leading publisher + author Michael Hyatt and his coach Daniel Harkavy. It’s basically like having one of the world’s leading life coaches walk you through the Life Planning process he’s used with thousands of his clients. Big Ideas we explore include The Drift, your life GPS, pull power, soul oxygen and the Law of Diminishing Intent.
Big Ideas
- Life Planning vs. The Driftvs. The drift.
- So What is A life Plan?What you want, how to get it.
- Your Life GPS (The 3 Essential Questions)Three questions.
- Does Your Future Have Pull Power?Your future have it?
- “Welcome to Optimize Airlines...”“In the even of life pressure...”
- The Law of Diminishing IntentDo it now! And, pay the rent daily.
“In this book we want to provide the clarity you need to articulate a vision for your life—your whole life—and develop a plan for getting to a better destination. It’s all about being fully awake to the realities of our personal and professional worlds and using that fresh level of awareness to make better decisions and tell better stories with our lives.
Living Forward will heighten your sense of what’s truly possible for you in life. If you feel out of balance, aware that your current pace is unsustainable; if you are making great gains professionally but don’t want to neglect personal priorities; if you want to have better focus to succeed financially; if you have gone through a recent tragedy and suddenly become aware that life is short; if any of those are true, this book is for you.
Living Forward will equip you to make better decisions in every area of your life. The good news is that we have more control than most of us realize. Each day is filled with thousands of opportunities to change the story of our lives. We want to help you make the most proactive, intentional, and beneficial decisions possible.
Finally, Living Forward will position you to make the most significant contribution in this world that you can and add the most value to those around you.”
~ Michael Hyatt & Daniel Harkavy from Living Forward
Living Forward is a powerful little book all about helping us figure out our Life Plan—which is, essentially, the vision for every aspect of our lives and our plan to make it a reality.
The book is the result of a collaboration between leading publisher + author Michael Hyatt and his coach Daniel Harkavy.
It’s basically like having one of the world’s leading life coaches walk you through the Life Planning process he’s used with thousands of his clients. (Get a copy here.)
It’s packed with Big Ideas and I’m excited to share a few of my favorites we can apply to our lives today so let’s jump straight in!
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Listen to the PodcastLife Planning vs. The Drift
“Life Planning is the exact opposite of the drift. The drift is about passivity. Life Planning is about proactivity. The drift is about blaming our circumstances and other people. Life Planning is about taking responsibility. The drift is about living without a plan. Life Planning is about having a plan and working it.”
That’s from Chapter 1: Acknowledge the Drift.
Before we launch into creating a Plan for our lives, we need to see the areas in which we’re simply drifting.
But, first, let’s celebrate the areas of your life in which you ARE on purpose. What’s awesome these days?
I’m proud of how I’m showing up in these parts of my life: ________________________
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Alright. Fantastic. Now, what areas of your life need a little more attention?
These areas of my life need a little (or a lot) more work: __________________________
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Let’s move from drifting to planning!
P.S. Here’s some old school wisdom on ships and drifting to help bring the point home:
Orison Swett Marden puts it this way in Making Life a Masterpiece (see Notes): “It would be impossible for a ship to come into a certain port without a compass as it would be for a man or woman to make any headway on the sea of life without a purpose. Nobody ever drifts into anything desirable. To get the thing worth while you must know where your goal lies, and you must make straight for it, past all the rocks and sandbars.”
And, in Lead the Field (see Notes), Earl Nightingale tells us: “If you should visit a ship in port and ask the captain for his next port-of-call, he’ll tell you in a single sentence. Even though the captain cannot see his port, his destination, for full 99% of the voyage, he knows it’s there, and barring an unforeseen and highly unlikely catastrophe, he’ll reach it. All he has to do is keep doing certain things every day.
If someone asked you for your next port-of-call, your goal, could you tell him? Is your goal clear and concise in your mind? Do you have it written down? It’s a good idea. We need reminding, reinforcement. If you can get a picture of your goal and stick it to your bathroom mirror, it’s an excellent idea to do so. Thousands of successful people carry their goals written on a card in their wallets or purses.”
To reach a port we must sail, sometimes with the wind, and sometimes against it. But we must not drift or lie at anchor.
So What is A life Plan?
“While others have written or spoken on this topic as well, the term Life Plan seems to have been commandeered by the financial services industry. If you Google the phrase, 99 percent of the results point to websites selling financial or insurance products. Not us. We are using this phrase to refer to a specific kind of document. When we say Life Plan, here’s what we mean:
A Life Plan is a short written document, usually five to fifteen pages long. It is created by you and for you. It describes how you want to be remembered. It articulates your personal priorities. It provides the specific actions necessary to take you from where you are to where you want to be in every major area of your life. It is most of all a living document that you will tweak and adjust as necessary for the rest of your life.”
There ya go.
That’s a Life Plan.
Short (5 to 15 pages long). Just for you.
Capturing how you want to be remembered. (What’s your vision of your legacy?)
Identifying your priorities. (What’s truly important to you?)
Creating your plan. (What are you going to do to make that vision and priorities a reality?)
Of course, the book is all about systematically walking us through the creation of it.
Let’s take a quick look at some key Ideas in rockin’ it.
Your Life GPS (The 3 Essential Questions)
“The same is true when it comes to your Life Plan. It is the result of answering three powerful questions. Let’s consider them one at a time.
Question 1: How do I want to be remembered? In planning anything, the best place to begin is at the end. What outcome do you want? How do you want the story to end? How do you want to be remembered when you are gone? …
Question 2: What matters most? Maybe you have never given yourself permission to ask this question…. what’s important to you? What matters most in your life? This is a question about priorities. No one else can decide what they are for you.
Question 3: How can I get from here to where I want to be? If you are going to improve your life and realize your potential, you will have to figure out where you are now; where you want to be; and how you get from one to the other.”
The book is basically all about helping us answer those three essential questions.
Throughout the book, Michael and Daniel come back to the metaphor of a Life Plan serving as a sort of Life GPS.
If you want a GPS to work, what do you need?
First, you need to know where you want to go.
Then, you need to know where you are.
And, of course, you need to start moving toward your destination.
Like a GPS, our Life Plan helps us map all that out and efficiently guides us to our ultimate destination. Let’s do a little reflection on each of those elements:
—> How do you want to be remembered?
Begin at the ultimate end—your funeral. What do those closest to you have to say?
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—> What’s most important to you?
What REALLY matters to you? What are your top, essential, non-negotiable priorities?
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—> How can you get from where you are to where you want to be?
What’s one thing you *know* you could be doing that would help you get where you want to be?
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And, what’s one thing you could STOP doing that would help you get where you want to be?
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Nice work.
#babysteps to clarity.
Truth is, everyone is in the process of creating—and leaving—a legacy. The question is not ‘Will you leave a legacy?’ but ‘What kind of legacy will you leave?’
Strategy without action is hallucination!
Does Your Future Have Pull Power?
“Keeping you eye on the future is essential for making the most of today. You need to acknowledge where you are, but you also need to see clearly where you are going. What do you want in each of the major categories of your life? What would they look like in their ideal state?
… What’s important is that the future be enticing enough to stay focused. We call this pull power.
A goal needs to draw you. … Pull power is essential to reach our goals. You need to see a future with such clarity and desirability that you will go through all the uncomfortable things life throws at you to attain it.”
Pull power.
Does YOUR future have it?
If yes, then you’re probably feeling pretty fired up and ready to move through the inevitable obstacles life throws at us.
If not, then, well, you’re probably NOT feeling so spiffy.
As you may recall, Piers Steele says the same thing in his Procrastination Equation(see Notes) where he shares the results of his uber-meta analysis of hundreds of research studies on motivation.
His equation starts with what he calls “Expectancy + Value.” If you want to be super motivated you need to be REALLY excited about your future and believe you can create what you want.
The result of that?
Pull power.
Michael and Daniel help us identify each of the major categories of our lives and then create a compelling vision for each to generate that pull power.
How about a quick take now?
Take a moment to capture your ideal vision for each of these categories:
Your health and energy and vitality: _______________________________________
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Your relationships: __________________________________________________
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Your creative/professional work: ________________________________________
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Awesome.
Get clear.
Get excited.
Remember pull power.
(P.S. Check out some online tools at LivingForwardBook.com.)
Make no little plans; they have no magic to stir men’s blood and probably will themselves not be realized. Make big plans; aim high in hope and work, remembering that a noble, logical diagram once recorded will not die.
Decide what you want, decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work.
“Welcome to Optimize Airlines...”
“If you’ve traveled by plane, you’ve undoubtedly heard the flight attendant say something like this: ‘In the event of a change in cabin pressure, panels above your head will open revealing oxygen masks.’ If you’ve traveled more than occasionally, you can probably recite the rest of the spiel: ‘Pull the mask down toward you to activate the flow of oxygen. Cover your nose and mouth with the mask. Place the elastic band around your head and continue to breathe normally.’ And then they always say, ‘Remember to secure your own mask before assisting others.’
Why? Because if you run out of air, you can’t help anyone. Here is a little insight into how we look at life. We have to attend to ourselves first (second only to God for us) in order to be spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, and physically available to others.
If you have trouble with the semantics of putting yourself first, think of it as preparation to serve others.”
“Welcome to OPTIMIZE Airlines.
This is your friendly flight attendant speaking.
Please be seated and fasten your seatbelts.”
<— Wouldn’t it be awesome if, when experiencing the inevitable changes in life pressure, panels magically appeared and opened above our heads to give us the soul oxygen we need? :)
Alas, it doesn’t quite work that way.
So…
We have to proactively give ourselves our own oxygen by rockin’ our fundamentals on a daily basis.
Note: This is ESPECIALLY important when we’re experiencing the turbulent ups and downs of life’s challenges. Too often we drop the very things that would keep us stabilized right when we need it most.
And…
Remember: If you aren’t getting oxygen, you can’t help anyone else.
Unless we’re being super weird about it, taking care of ourselves is not a selfish act. It’s essential if we’re going to consistently connect to something bigger than ourselves and most fully give ourselves to our family and world.
How’s your oxygen?
What’s one little thing you can do to dial it in on this preciously fun little trip that is our life?
(Now a good time to make it stick?)
Self-discipline is the ability to make yourself do something you don’t necessarily want to do, to get a result you would really like to have.
The Law of Diminishing Intent
“If you’ve heard renowned business and life thought leader Jim Rohn’s ‘law of diminishing intent,’ you know why this is important. The law of diminishing intent says that the longer you delay doing something, the less probability you have of actually doing it. You lose all the emotional energy. That’s why we encourage you to schedule a day within the next two weeks to create your Life Plan.”
The Law of Diminishing Intent.
Basic idea: You get fired up about something—whether that’s installing a new habit, pursuing a great biz idea or relationship or, in this context, creating a Life Plan.
The Law of Diminishing Intent tells us that the longer you wait to actually do it, the less likely it is that you’ll get around to it.
So… TAKE ACTION when you feel inspired. Use all that emotional energy and channel it in the direction of your vision by taking whatever baby step you can.
Then, we need to maintain that intention + momentum every day.
In Take the Stairs (see Notes) Rory Vaden calls it “The Rent Axiom” which is “the mind-set success is never owned—it is only rented—and the rent is due every day.”
He puts it this way: “They [people who set New Year’s resolutions but don’t follow through] are simply, through their own unawareness, victims of the law of diminishing intent. They are people who do not realize how fickle—and fleeting—our own intentions can be. Understanding this phenomenon explains why New Year’s Resolutions rarely work. We can’t make a resolution once a year and expect it to leverage us to action for that entire period of time. Instead, as Albert Gray wrote in 1940, ‘Any resolution that is made today must again be made tomorrow.’ And the next day, and the next day, and the next day (remember the Rent Axiom?).”
In Habits 101 we talked about the importance of never missing a day. Same Idea.
What’re you fired up about?
Now a good time to take the first step? Or the 10th? Or the 100th?
Let us endeavor so to live that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.
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