#1788 The Living Dead

Quit Avoiding Pain and LIVE!

Caroline Adams Miller is one of my favorite human beings on the planet.


Her book Creating Your Best Life is one of my ALL-TIME favorite books.

In fact, it’s at least tied for first as my all-time favorite positive psychology book.

(Note: We have Notes on nearly ALL the best positive psychology books—from Seligman’s Flourish to Angela Duckworth’s Grit—so that’s saying a lot!)

Why is this book one of my all-time favorites?

Because Caroline has a remarkable ability to make the basic science of well-being SUPER PRACTICAL and the density of TRULY PRACTICAL, SCIENTIFICALLY GROUNDED wisdom in this book is astonishing.


I’m typing this right in the middle of creating the Philosopher’s Note on her great book.

I was typing out a quote that will appear on the sidebar in the PDF/between Big Ideas in the app and I was SO BLOWN AWAY by one of them that I had to stop everything and make sure I shared this in a +1.


A little more context.

Then the quote I think you’ll love.

A guy named Gary Latham wrote the foreword to Creating Your Best Life.

As you may know, Dr. Latham (and his colleague Dr. Edwin Locke) are THE WORLD’S preeminent authorities on the science of goal setting.

Their theories are known as “Locke and Latham’s Goal-Setting Theory.”

Latham’s two-page foreword in the book is amazing. In it, he tells us: “This book is a ‘must read’ because it brings science to lifeyour life.”

I agree. Again, I highly recommend you check it out. (Get a copy here.)


An aside—since I actually created this note (typed it out) before I filmed it…

I wrote the foreword to Caroline’s next book called Big Goals (it’s going to be awesome) on the science of goal setting. More on that soon.


Here’s the quote from Edwin Locke that stopped me in my tracks…

He tells us: “There are two kinds of people in the world: the vulnerable and the dead. Those who live only to avoid hurt are the living dead.”


Soak that in.

Insert head-exploding emoji…

😲 🤯

THAT is Today’s +1.

I repeat: “There are two kinds of people in the world: the vulnerable and the dead. Those who live only to avoid hurt are the living dead.”


If there are two kinds of people, I wonder…

Which one are YOU?

As we contemplate that, let’s remember Phil Stutz’s THREE unavoidable realities of life…

My Yoda tells us that we will ALL experience PAIN, UNCERTAINTY, and the need for CONSTANT HARD WORK.

But only for the rest of our lives!!


If you fail to embrace that reality and you’re trying to avoid those three things then, well, at the risk of being harsh but leaning on one of the world’s leading scholars for the intense inspiration…

You are the living dead.

Let’s not be that.

It’s time to forge the Wisdom, Discipline, Courage, and Love to activate our Heroic potential.


P.S. Remember: “We love PUH!” and “We love PUCW!” 🤓

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