In our last +1, we spent some time with Alden Mills and those two competing voices in our heads.
As we discussed, Alden named those voices barking at us (all day every day!) “The Whiner” and “The Winner”. Mark Divine likes to call them “The Courage Wolf” and “The Fear Wolf”. I like to call them “The Daimon” and “The Demon”.
Whatever YOU like to call them, it’s a good idea to listen to the most wise, disciplined, loving and courageous voice in our heads, eh?!
(Answer: YES! 🤓 )
Today I want to chat about another simple, yet brilliant and practical way Alden brought this wisdom to life.
Let’s get straight to work.
Alden tells us: “Here is a simple exercise I want you to practice now and until your last breath. It involves asking yourself (and your teammates) a very simple question: ‘Is this thought helpful or hurtful to what I am/we are trying to accomplish?’”
He continues by saying: “My boys hear me asking them this question all the time, especially when they are expressing some E-Motions such as ‘I am no good at this,’ ‘My team sucks,’ ‘I’m not going to early morning practice because other teammates aren’t either,’ or ‘Why should I be the only one working so hard?’ My response to these and so many more E-Motions is asking them, ‘Boys, is that thought helpful or hurtful [toward helping you achieve your goal]?’ I say it so frequently to them, the question is now abbreviated: ‘Helpful or hurtful?’”
That’s Today’s +1.
The next time you find yourself caught up in a less-than-helpful dialogue with yourself…
PAUSE.
And ask yourself…
“Is this thought helpful or hurtful to what I am/we are trying to accomplish?”
+1 or -1.
+1 or -1.
+1 or -1.
“Helpful or hurtful?”
“Helpful or hurtful?”
“Helpful or hurtful?”
+1 or -1.
+1 or -1.
+1 or -1.
Let’s choose wisely.
TODAY.
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