Byron Katie tells us that there are three different businesses we can be in: Our own business, someone else’s business, or God’s business.
She tells us that if we want to reduce our suffering, we’d be VERY wise to focus exclusively on OUR business.
You may have noticed that it’s I M P O S S I B L E to control someone else—no matter how hard you try, you simply aren’t going to be able to flip a switch and change someone. Period. Therefore, get out of their business and quit trying.
Notice how you suffer when you focus on what other people should be doing. Flip that around and focus on what YOU should be doing. THAT’s your business.
And… You might’ve noticed that it’s even more I M P O S S I B L E (is that possible to be more impossible? 😃) to control GOD’s business. A tornado strikes. An earthquake shakes. The market’s collapse. Or, perhaps, your least favorite political candidate (ever!) takes office. That kinda thing. God’s business. It’s not within your direct control. Period.
Want to suffer?
Focus on trying to control those things and then complain about them.
Want to stop suffering?
Focus on what IS within your control: YOUR BUSINESS.
How YOU show up in the world. The thoughts you allow yourself to think. The actions you decide to take. The habits you decide to build. The heroic quests you decide to pursue. The love you choose to embody.
Other people’s business. God’s business. Your business.
Whose business are YOU in?