Have you ever heard of “The Law of Psychological Reactance”?
Here’s the short story: No one likes being told what to do.
<- You might have noticed?
Sorry about being Captain Obvious with that but get this…
You can bring people into a lab and have them do problem-solving tasks and then measure their level of interest. Then, give them a break and have people strongly encourage them to do certain tasks and avoid others and guess what?
“This study, along with numerous follow-ups, showed that people were likely to avoid what they had been told to choose and to choose what they had been told to avoid. This was true even if they had previously shown interest in something. Telling people to choose an activity—even one they liked—almost guaranteed that they would then avoid it. That’s how much people dislike being told what to do.”
THAT is the law of psychological reactance.
You can really enjoy doing something but the moment you’re told you “have” to do it, you lose interest. (D’oh! And Hah!)
If you want to influence someone today (including yourself, btw), you’ve gotta start by “reinforcing autonomy.” In other words, DON’T TELL THEM WHAT TO DO. (Laughing.)
Let THEM tell THEMSELVES why they want to do something.
And… Voila! Instant Influence.
Check out the PhilosophersNote on the 6-step process of Instant Influence for more on that.
For now, think of something you’d like YOURSELF to do today.
Now, don’t “tell yourself” you have to do it. Instead, reinforce your autonomy by asking yourself, “Why might I want to do this today?”
High fives to you and your autonomous self!
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